“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the stony heart out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.” – Ezekiel 36:26
A Sacred Call to Healing…
Restore Your Family and Break Free from Generational Pain Without Living Behind Walls of Anger and Emotional Detachment
It’s time to rebuild the home that has been torn apart by the unseen battles within.
Introducing: “Restoring the Family” – a scripture-based guide designed to help Active Duty Service Members, veterans and their families experience deep emotional healing and restoration. Learn how to break free from the hardened heart caused by war trauma, reconnect with loved ones, and finally walk in the freedom of true, lasting peace.
Dear Military Family,
The effects of war trauma don’t end when service ends – they silently enter our homes, creating invisible barriers between hearts that were meant to be connected.
If you’re feeling this burden, you’re not alone.
For over 25 years, we’ve witnessed thousands of military families struggling with:
• Hearts hardened by the defilement of war
• Children walking on eggshells around their veteran parent
• Spouses feeling shut out by emotional walls
• The “Don’t Talk” rule that keeps pain buried and healing at bay
• Military culture unknowingly dominating the home
But we’ve also witnessed God’s faithful promise of restoration at work…
God’s Path to Restoration Includes:
Scripture-Based Healing Journey: Built on the foundational truth that God desires to “give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you” (Ezekiel 36:26), this guide leads you through biblical principles for deep, lasting transformation.
Breaking Generational Strongholds: Just as God promised to heal generations (Exodus 20:6), this course helps you identify and break free from the cycles of military trauma that have affected families for generations.
Spirit-Led Transformation: Experience the power of God’s healing as you work through emotional disconnection, defensiveness, and the defilement of war trauma.
Family Restoration Focus: Learn how to restore love and connection with your family by breaking down emotional barriers and dealing with the unresolved pain carried from the battlefield into the home.
Creating a Safe Place for Healing: Learn how to establish your home as a sanctuary where God’s peace reigns and genuine heart connections can flourish.
Overcoming Military Mindsets: Discover how to move beyond military conditioning that fosters emotional disconnection and detachment, allowing you to re-enter family life fully present and engaged.
Hope for Lasting Change: Backed by real-life testimonies, Restoring the Family provides hope, encouragement, and proof that no heart is too hardened, and no family is too broken to experience true transformation.
What the Lord is Doing Through This Work:
“The anger and yelling I used in the military to get things done was being used on my wife and 3 children… In the military, you don’t talk about fears or internal struggles. That carried over into my marriage, and I completely put walls around my heart. But God…”
– Joe, Air Force Veteran
Your Journey to Restoration Includes:
🙏 Healing the Stony Heart: “I will give you a heart of flesh” – Experience God’s promise as He transforms hardness into tenderness, allowing love to flow freely again.
🧱 Break Down Walls of Defensiveness: Just as the walls of Jericho fell, watch as God brings down the defensive walls built through military service and trauma.
🗣️ Finding Your Voice Again: Break free from the “Don’t Talk” rule that has kept you bound in silence, and learn to speak truth in love.
💔 Releasing Hidden Pain: Experience the freedom that comes when buried anger and trauma are brought into God’s light for healing.
🔗 Restore Trust and Intimacy: Rebuild trust that has been shattered by trauma and emotional disconnection. Learn to communicate honestly, respect boundaries, and create an environment of safety in your home.
🧘 Restoring Family Connections: Return to God’s original design for your family – one of peace, joy, and deep emotional connection.
👨👩👧👦 Heal Generational Wounds: Identify how war trauma and military culture affect not just the veteran, but the entire family, and gain practical steps to stop the cycle and create a legacy of healing.
🌟 Experience Spiritual Renewal: Engage in a spiritual journey to invite God’s healing power into every area of your life, bringing restoration, peace, and renewed purpose.
A Special Invitation to Begin Your Healing Journey:
As you take this step of faith, you’ll receive:
Complete access to all 10 Spirit-led lessons
Video teachings that bring Scripture to life
Weekly “Freedom Group” fellowship via Zoom
Graduation Ceremony! Celebration of God’s victory in your family
“To day if ye will hear His voice, harden not your hearts…” (Hebrews 3:15)
“Heavenly Father, we pray for every family reading this message. If this is Your timing for their restoration, make it clear in their spirit. Give them the courage to take this step toward healing, trusting in Your faithful promise to restore what has been broken. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Here is The Course Outline…
Lesson #1 :
Hardened Heart – Stony Heart
This lesson addresses how the emotional traumas of military service can harden a veteran’s heart, creating emotional walls that disconnect them from their loved ones. It emphasizes the biblical concept of a “stony heart” and explores the gradual process of emotional hardening caused by pain and unresolved anger. With testimonies and reflective exercises, the lesson guides veterans in recognizing their hardened hearts and taking steps toward receiving a “heart of flesh” that allows genuine connection with their families once again.
Lesson #2 :
Emotional Disconnection
Emotional disconnection is a common result of prolonged exposure to trauma and military culture. This lesson explains how military training and experiences can cause veterans to become detached, unable to feel or express their emotions openly. The lesson aims to help veterans understand this disconnection, showing the importance of acknowledging their own emotional needs and reconnecting with their family members. Through prayer and intentional communication, they can begin to break down the barriers of isolation that have formed over time.
Lesson #3 :
Re-Connecting for Healing
In this lesson, veterans are encouraged to rebuild emotional connections that were lost due to service-related trauma. It focuses on transforming the home environment into a safe and nurturing space where open communication can thrive. This lesson provides practical guidance on overcoming the lingering effects of harsh military communication styles and the barriers they create. Through shared activities, veterans and their families can begin the journey of emotional healing and deeper connection.
Lesson #4 :
Detachment
This lesson delves into the phenomenon of detachment, a survival mechanism that is essential in military service but damaging in family life. It explains how service members are trained to detach from their emotions to remain mission-focused, often leading to emotional distance from their families. The lesson highlights the harmful cycle of detachment and loneliness, providing strategies for veterans to become more present and engaged with their loved ones, thus breaking the pattern of emotional isolation.
Lesson #5 :
Performance Orientation
Performance orientation occurs when a veteran’s sense of worth is tied to their ability to perform and achieve. This lesson reveals how military culture, which prioritizes high performance and discipline, can create a home environment that feels more like a mission than a family. The focus is on replacing this mindset with a new one rooted in grace and acceptance, so that family members can build genuine, loving relationships without the constant pressure to excel and prove themselves.
Lesson #6 :
Defilement
Defilement is the contamination of the soul resulting from war trauma and bitterness. This lesson outlines how the bitterness and harshness of war impact veterans, leading to toxic emotional and spiritual conditions that affect the entire family. The lesson uses the metaphor of a polluted water source to illustrate how unresolved anger and bitterness can taint communication and relationships. Through cleansing prayers and scripture, veterans are guided to address these deep-rooted issues and restore purity in their interactions.
Lesson #7 :
Healing for the Marriage
Marriage is deeply affected when one or both spouses have been shaped by military culture. This lesson highlights the need for creating a “Safe Place” within the marriage, where open and loving communication can flourish. It addresses how military values like performance and control can lead to a breakdown of trust. With practical steps for improving communication and establishing a foundation of mutual respect, this lesson offers a pathway to healing and strengthening the marital relationship.
Lesson #8 :
Healing for the Spouse
Spouses of service members often experience a unique set of emotional struggles, especially during the re-entry period after deployments. This lesson explores the challenges of reconnecting emotionally and the unmet needs that may arise for both partners. It provides guidance for spouses to support their service member’s healing process while also addressing their own needs. By fostering empathy and understanding, couples can rebuild a marriage that supports both partners’ emotional health and spiritual growth.
Lesson #9 :
Unmet Emotional Needs
Unmet emotional needs from childhood or military service can lead to unhealthy behaviors and emotional outbursts. This lesson focuses on recognizing and addressing these unmet needs, which often manifest as anger, isolation, or dependency on others for validation. It encourages veterans and their families to identify and work through these needs, replacing negative patterns with healthy, life-giving relationships that foster mutual support and understanding.
Lesson #10 :
Boundaries for Healing
Setting healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining emotional and relational health. This final lesson explains how to establish clear boundaries to protect the family environment from conflict and chaos. It encourages veterans and their families to define acceptable behavior and communicate their needs respectfully. By creating a safe space for open discussion and mutual respect, families can cultivate an atmosphere where true healing can take root and flourish.
FAQ
Frequently Asked Questions
What is the main objective of the "Restoring the Family" course?
The main objective of the Restoring the Family course is to help military veterans and their families heal from the emotional and spiritual effects of war trauma and military culture. The course aims to restore family relationships by addressing issues such as emotional disconnection, hardened hearts, detachment, and unhealthy communication patterns, while providing biblical guidance and practical strategies for healing and reconciliation.
Who is the course designed for?
The course is designed for military veterans, active service members, and their families who have been affected by war trauma, military culture, or relational issues stemming from service time. It is also intended for spouses and children of veterans who seek to understand and overcome the impact of military-related emotional and spiritual challenges within their family dynamics.
What topics are covered in the course?
The course covers topics such as emotional disconnection, hardened hearts, detachment, defilement, performance orientation, communication in marriage, healing for spouses, unmet emotional needs, and setting healthy boundaries. Each lesson addresses a specific issue with a focus on providing biblical insights, personal testimonies, and practical steps for overcoming these challenges.
How is the course structured?
The course is structured into 10 lessons, each focusing on a distinct area of emotional and relational healing. Each lesson includes teaching material, reflective exercises, personal testimonies, and guided prayers. The structure is designed to lead participants through a step-by-step healing process, allowing them to gradually identify and address the underlying issues that affect their family relationships.
What are some other resources that are provided during the course?
Additional resources provided during the course include guided prayers, scripture references, personal testimonies, and practical exercises for self-reflection. The course may also recommend joining support groups, such as Freedom Groups, and using biblical healing tools for overcoming specific emotional and spiritual struggles.
If your spirit bears witness to this calling for family restoration, we invite you to:
→ Join our First-Notice List for:
- Lesson Book: Dive deep into the lessons from “Restoring the Family,” authored by Denise Boggs, with practical guidance and spiritual insights.
- 10 Weeks of Video Trainings: Engage with powerful video sessions that complement the lesson book, providing step-by-step healing processes.
- Weekly Zoom Meetings “Freedom Groups”: Connect with a supportive community of veterans in weekly Zoom meetings, where you can share your journey and receive encouragement.
- Graduation Dinner/Event: Celebrate your transformation and new-found freedom with a special graduation dinner/event, honoring your journey and achievements.
